• Dr. Carolyn Hall

Comparison: The Enemy to Progress

2 Corinthians 10:12

Not that we dare to classify or compare ourselves with some of those who are commending themselves. But when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding.

"You're nothing like your sister." "My coworker doesn't work nearly as hard as me, but makes much more money." "Wow, I wish my marriage was like (insert name); they seem so happy." I could go on and on. Each of us has either been compared or been guilty of comparing ourselves to someone else. STOP IT! Comparison, in any form, is the enemy of progress. Not only does comparison cause us to view our lives through a skewed lens, it also causes us to be overly critical and pessimistic about our own lives.

Think about this: Each of us was distinctively and meticulously designed by the Creator to fulfill a specific purpose. In the very same way that no two people have the same finger print, none of us was meant to be exactly like someone else. So, to compare your life to someone else's stops you from being able to judge your own progress. For example, I remember countless people, family included, talking to me about how long it took me to finish my doctorate. They would often compare me to 'others they knew', who by their accounts, "finished in far less time." Their unwarranted remarks, initially, would get under my skin and make me question myself. But, after much introspection, I learned to trust my process and take note of my own progress.

We have to learn to be our own cheerleaders and celebrate the strides that we have already made. And, if you're unhappy with your position in life, GET PURPOSED ABOUT IT. I've witnessed so many people, both young and old, become depressed and hopeless because they began to compare their station in life to someone else's. In doing so, they either continued to do nothing or became envious of the person that they compared themselves to. Don't fall into either of those traps. Instead...

1) Pray about what God has purposed you to do: "...Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you" (Matthew 6:33). In other words, when you seek to know God and be obedient to His word, He will begin to unlock your purpose and unleash the blessings that are attached to it. But, your desire must be to please Him and not people.

2) Create a plan of action for your life: instead of focusing on what other people have that you might not have, FOCUS ON CREATING A STRATEGY FOR YOUR SUCCESS. Luke 14: 28 says this, " For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it?." This simply means that whatever goal or vision you desire to manifest, it

must first be planned out.

3) Pursue: Proverbs 10: 4 says, "A slack hand causes poverty, but the hand of the diligent makes rich." Most of the 'successful people' that we look up to had to do some intense work behind the scenes. So, my question to you is what are you doing to fulfill your goals?




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